Get honest answers about your ex’s feelings with this free 6-card tarot reading. It goes beyond surface-level โ revealing their current emotional state, what they’re actually thinking, whether they have regrets, what’s stopping them from acting, and whether they’re likely to reach out.
Card 1: Their current feelings about youCard 2: What they're thinking right nowCard 3: Do they have regrets?Card 4: What's holding them backCard 5: Will they reach out?Card 6: Advice on what you should doFocus on your ex, bring the question that’s been sitting heaviest in your mind, draw your six cards, and let the tarot give you the clarity you’ve been looking for.
How to Interpret Your “Does My Ex Want Me Back?” Reading
Now that you’ve drawn your cards, it’s important to understand what they mean in the context of your specific situation with your ex.
What Each Card Position Reveals
Position 1: Their Current Feelings
This first card is fundamental because it reveals the emotional energy your ex experiences when they think about you. It can show nostalgia, resentment, lingering love, or indifference. Pay special attention to whether the card is Cups (emotions) or Swords (mental conflict).
Position 2: Their Thoughts
Here you discover how your ex is mentally processing the breakup. Do they regret it? Do they think it was the right decision? Do they have doubts? This card reveals their conscious perspective on the situation. Swords here indicate internal conflict, while Pentacles suggest a practical focus.
Position 3: Regrets
This position is crucial. It shows whether your ex regrets ending the relationship or feels relieved. Regret doesn’t always mean they want to get back together, but it does indicate the relationship still matters to them emotionally.
Position 4: Obstacles
Even if they want to reconnect, there may be significant barriers: pride, fear of rejection, another person in their life, advice from friends/family, personal insecurities, or they simply need more time. This card identifies what’s specifically preventing reconciliation.
Position 5: Contact Likelihood
The million-dollar question. This card shows whether your ex is considering reaching out or if they’re waiting for you to make the first move. It can also indicate approximate timing. Action cards (Wands, certain Major Arcana) suggest movement soon.
Position 6: Your Best Course of Action
Finally, the tarot guides you on what to do now. Should you contact them? Give them space? Work on yourself? Move on? This card considers the entire energetic situation revealed and gives you the wisest advice.
Positive Signs in the Tarot (Your Ex Wants You Back)
If these cards appear in key positions (1, 3, or 5), they generally indicate your ex is considering reconciliation:
- Two of Cups: Renewed mutual connection, persistent chemistry
- Six of Cups: Deep nostalgia, happy memories dominate
- Ace of Cups: New feelings or renewed feelings
- The Lovers: Important decision, considering return
- Judgement: Deep reflection, possible change of mind
- The Star: Renewed hope, healing in progress
- Ten of Cups: Desires the happiness you had together
Signs of Moving On (Your Ex Has Let Go)
These cards usually indicate your ex isn’t planning to return or it’s not the right time:
- Eight of Cups: Definitive emotional withdrawal
- Death: Transformation, definitive closure
- Three of Swords: Pain associated with the relationship
- Five of Pentacles: Feels better without the relationship
- Ten of Swords: Painful ending, no going back
- The Hermit: Needs to be alone, internal focus
- The Tower: Necessary rupture, no reconstruction
What to Do After Your Reading
If the cards indicate they want you back:
- Don’t rush to contact them immediately - give them time to process
- Work on yourself in the meantime (gym, hobbies, therapy)
- Maintain your dignity - don’t beg or plead
- If they contact you, be receptive but not desperate
- Consider if YOU really want to get back together (not just them)
If the cards indicate they won’t return:
- Accept the message gracefully - the tarot saves you from suffering
- Begin your healing process actively
- Don’t insist - respect the decision and your own dignity
- Delete or archive photos/messages to facilitate grieving
- Focus on your personal growth and new happiness
If the cards are ambiguous or mixed:
- Give the situation more time (2-4 weeks)
- Focus on your life in the meantime
- Watch for concrete signs from your ex
- Don’t overanalyze every interaction
- Consult again after significant changes in the situation
Frequently Asked Questions About This Reading
Can I change what the cards show?
Yes and no. The tarot shows trends based on CURRENT energy. Your future actions CAN influence the outcome. If the cards show obstacles but you work to overcome them (for example, giving space, improving as a person), the outcome can change.
How often should I do this reading?
We recommend waiting at least 2-3 weeks between readings on the same topic. Doing daily readings about the same thing creates confusion because the energy hasn’t had time to develop. Only repeat the reading if there’s a significant change in the situation.
Should I tell my ex about this reading?
No. This reading is for YOUR internal clarity and decision-making. Sharing it with your ex can:
- Make you seem desperate
- Create unnecessary pressure
- Make them uncomfortable if they don’t believe in tarot
- Be used against you if the relationship ended badly
What if I don’t understand the cards?
Each card in your reading comes with a personalized interpretation for your specific situation. Read carefully and reflect on how it applies to your experience. If a card seems contradictory, consider that it may be showing complex aspects (for example, your ex may love you BUT be afraid to return).
Do the cards guarantee my ex will come back?
No. The tarot shows probabilities and trends, not absolute certainties. Free will exists - both yours and your ex’s. The cards give you information to make informed decisions, not to predict a fixed and immutable future.
What if my ex is with someone else?
The tarot can reveal this situation (look for Three of Cups, Two of Pentacles, or The Devil in obstacle positions). If these cards appear, it indicates another person is interfering. This doesn’t mean it’s permanent, but it does mean you need to give much more space.
How long should I wait before contacting my ex?
It depends on the cards in position 6 (Advice). Generally:
- If waiting cards appear (The Hanged Man, Four of Swords): 1-2 months minimum
- If action cards appear (Knights, The Magician, Three of Wands): You can consider gentle contact in 2-3 weeks
- If closure cards appear (Death, Ten of Swords): Don’t contact, move forward
When This Reading Is Most Accurate
This reading works best when:
- At least 2-3 weeks have passed since the breakup (initial emotions have calmed)
- You haven’t been constantly contacting your ex (allows energy to settle)
- You’ve both had some space to process
- You’re genuinely open to any answer, even the one you don’t want to hear
- You haven’t consulted multiple readings in recent days (avoids energetic confusion)
Understanding Card Combinations
Strong Return Indicators:
- Two of Cups + The Lovers = Mutual desire to reconnect
- Six of Cups + Judgement = Reflecting on the relationship with new perspective
- Ace of Cups + The Star = Fresh start with hope and healing
Clear Moving On Signals:
- Eight of Cups + Death = Complete transformation and moving forward
- Ten of Swords + The Tower = Definitive ending, necessary for growth
- Five of Pentacles + The Hermit = Finding peace in solitude
Mixed Signals to Watch For:
- The Lovers + Five of Swords = Wants you but ego/pride interferes
- Two of Cups + The Devil = Strong attraction but toxic patterns remain
- Ace of Cups + Three of Swords = New feelings but old wounds still hurt
After Your Reading: Next Steps
Immediate Actions (Today):
- Save or screenshot your reading for reflection later
- Journal about how the cards resonate with your actual situation
- Don’t make any impulsive decisions based solely on the reading
This Week:
- Focus on self-care and your own healing
- If cards suggest waiting, start a 30-day no-contact challenge
- If cards suggest action, plan what you’d say (don’t execute yet)
This Month:
- Re-evaluate how the situation has evolved
- Notice if your ex’s behavior matches what the cards predicted
- Work on yourself regardless of the outcome
Depending on your results, you might also be interested in:
Professional Support Resources
While tarot provides valuable guidance, sometimes you need additional support:
If you’re struggling emotionally:
- Consider speaking with a licensed therapist
- Join a breakup support group (online or in-person)
- Practice self-compassion and patience with your healing
If you decide to reach out:
- Keep initial contact light and non-demanding
- Don’t bring up the reading or pressure for answers
- Be prepared for any response, including no response
If you’re moving on:
- Block or mute your ex on social media if needed
- Create new routines that don’t include them
- Set goals that excite you about your future
Remember: The tarot is a tool for reflection and guidance, not an infallible oracle. Use this information to make informed decisions, but also trust your own intuition and emotional wellbeing. Your happiness shouldn’t depend on whether your ex returns or not.
The universe has a plan for you, whether it includes this person or someone even better suited for your journey. Trust the process and prioritize your own growth and healing above all else.