Should I Stay or Leave This Relationship?

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Disclaimer: Intended for entertainment purposes only - Seek medical or professional advice from Doctors or certified professionals before making any health or personal choices.

Get clarity on staying vs leaving with this powerful 7-card tarot reading. Reveals the truth of your relationship, outcomes of each path, hidden factors you’re not seeing, and clear guidance for making this critical decision.

This 7-card tarot spread is carefully designed to provide comprehensive insights into your situation:

Card 1: The truth of your relationship right now
Card 2: What you’re not seeing clearly
Card 3: If you stay: 6-month outlook
Card 4: If you leave: 6-month outlook
Card 5: The real reason you’re stuck in indecision
Card 6: What your soul truly needs
Card 7: Guidance: The path forward

Simply focus on your question, draw your cards, and receive personalized guidance tailored to your unique situation.

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How to Interpret Your “Should I Stay or Leave?” Reading

This is one of the most agonizing questions you can face. You’re reading this because you’re in pain, confused, and exhausted from the mental back-and-forth. This reading won’t make the decision FOR you—but it will illuminate what you can’t see clearly through the fog of emotion, fear, and attachment.

Important: This reading works best when you’re genuinely open to EITHER answer. If you’re only willing to hear “stay,” you’re not ready for this reading. Come back when you’re truly ready to hear the truth.

Understanding Each Card Position

Position 1: The Truth of Your Relationship Right Now

This card cuts through denial, hope, and fear to show WHAT IS—not what you wish it was. Cards like Ten of Swords show it’s over, while Five of Cups shows disappointment but hope remains. The Devil indicates toxicity, while Ten of Cups reveals the relationship is actually good (meaning you need to examine why you’re questioning it).

Position 2: What You’re Not Seeing Clearly

This reveals your blind spot—crucial information you’re missing. Could be about your partner (their deception, that they’ve already left emotionally), about yourself (self-deception, more power than you think), about the situation (things are worse than admitted, or better than you see), or about what’s possible (hope exists or transformation is happening).

Position 3: If You Stay - 6 Month Outlook

Shows what happens if you stay, assuming both commit to work. Positive cards like The Sun or Ten of Cups show relationship becomes fulfilling. Negative cards like Ten of Swords or The Devil show toxicity deepens. Cards like Two of Swords show nothing changes. If this card is negative, it shows the trajectory IF nothing changes—can you/will you both change?

Position 4: If You Leave - 6 Month Outlook

Shows what happens if you leave. Cards like The Fool or The Star show freedom and healing. Death or Three of Swords show painful but necessary transformation. Six of Cups or Five of Pentacles might show regret or hardship. A painful card here doesn’t automatically mean don’t leave—it might mean the pain is necessary for evolution.

Critical: Compare Positions 3 and 4:

If 3 positive, 4 negative → Stay and work on it
If 3 negative, 4 positive → Leave (short-term pain, long-term gain)
If BOTH negative → Work on YOURSELF first (Problem isn’t just the relationship)
If BOTH positive → Either path works; check Position 6 (what soul needs)

Position 5: The Real Reason You’re Stuck in Indecision

Why can’t you decide? Fear (Eight of Swords, Nine of Swords, The Devil), attachment (Four of Pentacles, Six of Cups), identity/ego (The Emperor, The Hierophant), hope/denial (The Star, Seven of Cups), practical concerns (Ace of Pentacles, Ten of Pentacles), or legitimate pause needed (Justice, The Hanged Man). Understanding this is essential—you can’t make a clear decision until you address this block.

Position 6: What Your Soul Truly Needs

Beyond the relationship question, what does your soul need? Freedom (The Fool, Eight of Cups), love and partnership (Two of Cups, The Lovers), healing (The Star, Temperance), growth (Death, The Tower), security (The Emperor, Ten of Pentacles), or both connection AND independence (Temperance, Justice).

Critical question: Can this relationship give your soul what it needs? If Card 6 and Card 1 are fundamentally incompatible, you have your answer.

Position 7: Guidance - The Path Forward

Tarot’s direct advice. Clear “leave” messages (Eight of Cups, The Tower, Death), clear “stay” messages (Four of Wands, Temperance, Strength), “stay but make changes” (The Magician, Justice, The Emperor), “work on yourself first” (The Hermit, The Hanged Man), “it’s your choice” (The Lovers, Two of Swords), or complex guidance requiring deeper interpretation.

The Hardest Truths This Reading Reveals

If you’re asking this question, you already know the answer. Deep down, you know. Happy people don’t ask “should I leave?”
“I love them” isn’t enough reason to stay. Love without respect, trust, effort, and alignment is just pain.
The sunk cost fallacy is keeping you hostage. Years invested isn’t a reason to stay—it’s why it hurts to leave.
Staying for the kids is often worst for kids. They learn about love from watching you. Is this the model you want them to recreate?
You can’t love someone into being different. People change when THEY want to, not because you love them enough.
Fear is not wisdom. Staying from fear of being alone is self-abandonment, not loyalty.
There’s no perfect timing to leave. There will always be a reason to wait. The right time is when you decide it’s time.
Leaving doesn’t mean failure. Sometimes relationships have expiration dates. Leaving can be an act of love.

Signs You Should Definitely Leave

If any are true, the answer is LEAVE (not “maybe leave”):

Active abuse (physical, emotional, verbal, financial, sexual)
Addiction they won’t address
Repeated infidelity (patterns, not one mistake)
Fundamental incompatibility (different life goals/values)
You’ve lost yourself completely
Your mental/physical health is deteriorating
They show zero willingness to work on issues
You fantasize about their death as “escape”
You’re staying ONLY for kids, money, image, or fear
Good days are trauma-bonding, not genuine joy

If you’re going “but…” after each one—that’s your answer.

Signs You Should Stay and Work

Consider staying IF:

Both genuinely want to make it work (not just you)
Problems are situational, not fundamental
Respect and basic safety still intact
History of overcoming challenges together
You’re asking from growth, not fear
Professional help hasn’t been tried yet
You can imagine joyful future together
Core values and life vision still align
Physical/emotional safety never compromised
You’re not staying to prove something

After Your Reading: Decision Framework

Step 1: Journal honestly

If a friend described my relationship, what would I tell them?
What would I do if I weren’t afraid?
What does my body tell me? (Tension = wrong; Relief = right)
Am I staying from love or fear?
In 5 years, which decision will I regret more?

Step 2: Sit with it for one week Don’t decide immediately. Let it integrate. Notice your dreams, body, energy.

Step 3: Make a decision (even if tentative) Choose internally: “I’m staying” or “I’m leaving.” Notice your body’s response.

Step 4: Create a timeline Staying: “3 months of genuine effort. If nothing changes, I leave.”
Leaving: “I’ll prepare and leave by [date].”

Step 5: Don’t negotiate with yourself Once decided, commit. Don’t revisit daily.

When to Ignore This Reading

Get immediate help if:

Active physical danger
Threats or intimidation
Children being harmed
Isolation from support systems
Financial abuse or control

Final Permission

You’re allowed to leave a relationship that hurts you, even if they’re not “bad.”
You’re allowed to stay in an imperfect relationship, even if others judge.
You’re allowed to prioritize your peace over their feelings.
You’re allowed to change your mind.
You’re allowed to outgrow relationships.

Choose the one that lets you breathe. Choose the one where you’re living, not just surviving. 💔➡️💚